February 19, 2002
Rebound
age: 31
gender: female
I am a 31 year old female shortly out a relationship with older taurus male, I didn't see it ending and didn't take it well. Have met younger cancer male and have developed feelings for him as well--don't believe its a rebound sort of thing, but when I let myself feel, I still hurt deeply over losing taurus male--should I continue on with new relationship, or wait?
Freud was certainly right about one important issue...we're all on the rebound. For men, it's Mom...and for women, it's Dad. To the extent that we allow ourselves to feel...we allow ourselves to heal. There's nothing wrong with rebounds...it just helps to be aware of what they represent...i.e. distraction.
Don't let yourself use anyone for the purpose of distracting yourself from feelings that must be faced. That's all you can do with them, anyway...just face them. Healing doesn't happen without that crucial step.
If we're facing someone else...with all of the feelings involved in a new relationship...we're more likely to ignore the emotional debts that will continue to call at the most inconvenient hours.
There's nothing to wait for...except some silence and privacy in which to face your own feelings. A Cancer is more likely than some to allow you space and time enough to do just that.
kristo