August 6, 2000
the new woman
age: 43
gender: male
How does the new woman in my life feel about me?
She's enjoying the relationship and is looking forward to sharing more pleasure with you.
It's important to realize that she (as any partner would) feels precisely about you as you feel about yourself. That may sound peculiar and far-fetched but is more of a psychic reality than we tend to realize. Of course the experience, if you take the time to examine it, is more true to this idea than not. We can rarely get away with conning someone into liking us more than we like ourselves. A new relationship for a man at age 43 has some powerful stereotypical connotations...but regardless of age...we tend to attract precisely the partner we need in order to see ourselves and our feelings mirrored. Those most important feelings are the ones we're not even aware that we harbor...and a romantic partner is the most powerful mirror of those feelings imaginable. Honor that reality and learn to learn about yourself...you (and your partner) won't be disappointed. Remember, too, that you are a mirror of her soul as well...and learn to love and honor all that's there...dark and light. That's the path to joy.
kristo